What is Life Coaching and why we all need one

Life coaching is a practice with the aim of helping clients determine and achieve personal goals.

Life Coaches use different methods that help clients with the process of setting and reaching goals, with an emphasis on current behaviours rather than the past or motivations and focus on the teaching process to help you reach your goals. 

Life Skills Coach trainings objective is to assist individuals to think through their problems, to support clients to become aware of creative problem-solving and to put them into practice. The coach may apply mentoring, values assessment, behavior modification, behavior modeling, goal-setting and other techniques in helping their clients. Thus, Life Skills can be defined as problem-solving behaviours used responsibly and appropriately in the management of personal affairs; applied to all areas in life; self, family, community, employment and leisure.


Originally designed to help “socio-economically disadvantaged” adults who lacked skills to indentify problems, recognize and organize that information, then create an action plan to solve the problem and predict the consequences changed with the evolution of life skills. The developers soon learned life skills training can be used in many situations and can be helpful to both the advantaged and disadvantaged.

Government bodies have not found it necessary to provide a regulatory standard for life coaching, nor govern the education or training standard for the life coaching industry; the title of “coach” can be used by any service provider. Multiple coaching schools and training programs are available, allowing for many accreditation options. However, more and more organizations, corporations, clinics, and individuals alike are integrating coaching into their wellness programs and lifestyles.  Clients are looking for a coach “to really listen to them and give honest feedback.” The top three issues in which clients seek help are time management, career and business.

Let me tell you a story about why we all need a coach.  Why we need someone to help us develop the plan and someone who will hold you accountable for working towards that goal.

Most weekday mornings I go to the gym before I go to work. About a year and a half ago I did this and was heading down to work. I used to keep chocolate covered almonds in my car in case I got hungry going to work or coming home.  As I was driving I grabbed a handful and proceeded to eat them. I pulled into the parking lot a while later grabbed my stuff and proceeded to walk to my office. I passed a few staff members on the way holding doors, saying “Good Morning”. Walking away several of the people were smiling, almost laughing, as I left them.  I was thinking to myself about what a small difference I made in their days. I was feeling good! Later that morning I was at my desk talking to someone and got up from my chair to get something. I looked down and saw what looked like a melted chocolate covered almond on my chair. I asked the person I was meeting with if I had something on the back of my pants. Needless to say she started laughing. Turns out I dropped a couple of the chocolate covered almonds on my car seat on the way into work. They melted all over the back of my pants .

How does this embarrassing story relate to coaching?

I thought everything was normal and people were smiling because I was being thoughtful and kind. It turns out I wasn’t having the impact I thought I was, they just found my “dirty pants” funny. Unless you are working with a coach you are somewhat blind to your behaviour, how you are “showing up” or even how your behaviour might be affecting others and vice versa! You can’t see everything that you need to work on. You can’t always develop a plan to change because you can’t see yourself the way other people do!

Even coaches need coached, shouldn’t you find one too?

Find out how reFre5h Life Skills Coaching can help you restart your life!